Have you made your New Years Resolutions yet? Are they along the lines of ‘I should lose weight’, ‘I should exercise more’, ‘I should spend more time on myself’, ‘I should start a cleaning routine’? If so, then stop!!! Read this and I hope it will give you a new way of thinking about what you want to achieve this year.
One word in all of those statements can lead to you feeling unnecessary guilt about not following your resolutions. That word is obviously ‘should’. Changing that to ‘need’ or ‘want’ can make a huge difference.
So instead of saying ‘should’, do you need or want to lose weight? Do you need or want to do more exercise?’. Evaluating what we need and want to do makes us more likely to achieve our goals or resolutions.
It also helps us to make our priorities. I have a HUGE to-do list, it never seems to get any shorter but I have found that there is an easy way to prioritise what really matters. If there is something that I need to do that I also want to do then that is of high priority and jumps to the top of the list. The rest of the items on my list are prioritised as things I need or want to do. It is important to have a mixture of both because it’s easy to get bogged down with things that need to be done.
If it’s something that needs to be done but doesn’t need to be done today then it can make way for something that I want to do today. Anything that doesn’t fit into those categories goes on the ‘can do another time’ list.
Yes. I have more than one list. I have a daily to-do list and a general to do list. Every day I look at my list of things to do today and if there’s space for something from my ongoing ‘to do’ list then that makes it on to my daily list. Can you tell I like a list? I think I have lists for my lists somewhere……
Right then. Have a look at those resolutions you’ve made. Do they fit into the ‘need and want to’ category, the ‘need to’ or ‘want to’ categories or ‘should’ you do them?
I want to spend more time with friends and family
I want to spend more time on the hobbies I enjoy
I need to complete the course that I am currently enrolled on
I want to keep to a regular exercise regime
I want to make sure that my husband and I have regular quality time together